“What would your perfect day be like?” “What are three things that you think we have in common?” “Do you have a dream that you have not yet had a chance to do anything about? If so, what is it?"
“I have to admit something. I’ve wanted to hold your hand like this since the moment we met. ” “I have always wanted to know where you got that scar on your knee from. ” “I really want to tell you that I love the perfume you are wearing. ”
Tell your partner about your goals and dreams and ask him or her to share these as well. Focus on showing your positive personality traits in the conversation as well. Are you outgoing? Accepting? Honest? Hard working? Whatever your positive personality traits are, try to find a few opportunities to showcase them.
For example, if the conversation starts to wane, you might say something like, “I have always wanted to go to Antarctica. ”
For example, if your partner mentions a band he likes, then it is okay to interrupts with something like, “Oh yeah! I love that band too. ” Then, be quiet again and allow your partner to finish what he or she was saying.
For example, if your partner mentions something that he or she likes to do or mentions a recent accomplishment, then you can say something like, “That’s awesome!” or “I think that is so cool!”
For example, if your partner shares a challenge or a struggle with you, then you might say something like, “That seems like it must be difficult,” or “It’s terrible that you had to deal with that. ”
Avoid aggressive body language like crossed arms or lots of hand gestures. Try to keep your body language loose and welcoming by keeping your arms at your sides and facing your partner. Smile at your partner to show that you are having a good time.
Make sure you are giving your partner all of your attention during the conversation. Don’t look around the room or fidget, as this comes across as uncomfortable or uninterested.
For example, you can hold your partner’s hand or just lightly stroke the back of your partner’s arm while he or she is talking.
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