Do you only want to break up because of present circumstances, like a recent fight or money troubles? If not, is it because of long-term problems? Do you have second thoughts about breaking up, or have you been sure of your decision for a few weeks? If your partner asked you for a second chance, would you say yes? Do you see your partner in your life 6 months from now?[1] X Expert Source Imad JbaraRelationship Coach Expert Interview. 5 November 2019. Do you genuinely love your boyfriend or do you just love the idea of him?[2] X Expert Source Imad JbaraRelationship Coach Expert Interview. 5 November 2019. Do you only want to break up because you don’t feel good enough to be with him?[3] X Expert Source Imad JbaraRelationship Coach Expert Interview. 5 November 2019.

You can’t give him the love he deserves. You may need to move for a new job, want to spend more time with your family, or have a hard time supporting his needs. If you truly love him but know that you can’t/don’t want be there for him, it’s time to end it. You’ve fallen in love with someone else. Unfortunately, you can’t really control who you love. If you’ve got deep feelings for another, you need to end things with your current man before moving on. You don’t see yourself spending the rest of your life with him. This is especially important if he seems to plan his future around you. End things now instead of hoping you change your mind – it won’t happen. You’re unhappy. If the bad times outweigh the good, and the relationship weighs on your mind each day, it’s time to move on. This isn’t a phase – this is relationship that has begun to go sour. [4] X Research source

You will not be alone forever. Being single does not mean you’ll never find love again, even if it feels like you’ll never find another “perfect” man. Independence will make you stronger. Being alone is hard, but it forces you to grow in unexpected and important ways. You do not need your guy to be strong and happy. [5] X Research source

Remember, it may be best to break up even if you still have feelings for him. You just want to be sure that the bad outweighs the good.

Sometimes a gut feeling – “This just isn’t working” – is a perfectly acceptable reason for breaking up. Remember that you’re doing this for you, not someone else.

Remember – it is better to be happy alone than miserable on your own. [7] X Research source

Refrain from breaking up with your boyfriend on a date. You should make time to end things instead of trying to tack it onto an otherwise happy night. [8] X Research source

Take a deep breath and count to three in your head. Know that, when you get to “zero,” it’s time to break up with him.

“I’m ready to move on from our relationship. " “It’s time we saw other people. " “I think we should break up. “[9] X Research source

“I’ve realized that we’re growing apart. We’ve grown together for so long, and I cherish all of the time, but I need time to grow on my own now. " “I don’t feel like we treat each other with the respect we used to. Some of that is my fault. But we still need to move on to people who will treat us how we deserve. "

“I understand, but I think we need to go our separate ways. " “I don’t want to take a break and leave things uncertain. We need to break up. "

Missing him does not change any of your issues and it is not a reason to get back together. Your bigger issues, the ones you broke up over, will still be there when the dust settles.

You may be able to be friends one day, but that day is in the future. You need to be completely over your romantic feelings, and the only way to get there is to not see each other. Packing away photos and items that bring painful memories is a good way to start the healing process.

Do things for you. Take the time to take care of yourself for a bit.

When you feel like calling or texting your ex-boyfriend, call your best friend instead. Let them know, briefly, that you are still kicking old habits chat out your problems. Most people are happy to help you move on, but that doesn’t mean they want to hear about your ex-boyfriend all day. Avoid bringing him up, instead moving on to other topics. [13] X Research source