When you become a nun, you will receive a ring to denote you as God’s bride. Because of this, you may not have another relationship distracting you from God’s call.
In general, most religious communities encourage their members to have some type of college education. Having at least a BA is preferable, but not necessary. Life experience, including professional experience, is also a plus. [1] X Research source
If you have debt, don’t let it stop you. If you find a community you’d like to join, address the issue with your director. They may be able to help. [1] X Research source
There are three general types of religious communities to choose from:[2] X Research source contemplative communities and traditional and non-traditional apostolic communities. Contemplative communities focus on prayer. Their lifestyles are more serene, meditative, and insular than their apostolic counterparts. Traditional apostolic communities work in education and healthcare. Many nuns can be found teaching in area schools or helping at hospitals and other healthcare facilities. Non-traditional communities also do service for others, but can be found working with the homeless, incarcerated, or those with HIV/AIDS.
Vision Vocation Network is a Chicago-based network that is leading the “virtual discernment” phenomenon. Their counterpart is Vision, the magazine. [3] X Research source Vision Vocation Match helps those in discernment find communities that are right for them. Think of it as online dating, but for to-be-sisters and brothers looking for the right “home. “[4] X Research source Catholics on Call is also based out of Chicago and holds retreats and workshops to meet and network with other prospective candidates and seasoned experts on the sisterly scene. [5] X Research source Out of New York City is the Sisters of Life. The vocation director will respond directly to your email if you’re curious about what you see on their site. Hundreds do it each year. [6] X Research source A Nun’s Life is a blog that is aimed at women in the thinking stages of becoming a nun. It does a good job of spelling out the process, requirements, and details of, well, a nun’s life. [7] X Research source
The Institute on Religious Life can help you find a congregation or order of sisters that may be what you are looking for – they have information on the work, personal and community prayer and daily living schedule in for dozens of communities, in addition to information on events across the country. They even have an online assessment that helps a person know what congregation of sisters they may be best suited to visit![8] X Research source
If you know a nun within the community, talk to her. If you don’t know any members specifically, contact the vocation director. Her information can be found on their website; if that’s not an option, contact your diocese for information. The Vision Network as discussed above is generally chock full of information when it comes to communities and their directors. Do a little digging if you’re at a loss initially.
You’ll probably explore the campus, take part in retreats, get to learn all about the hang outs, and help in community events. You’ll meet the sisters and see if you vibe with the feel of their community.
The pre-candicacy process (where both parties are interested and you’re working together) can take 1 to 3 years. [9] X Research source This is a serious time commitment and should be taken seriously. If you’re unsure, bow out now.
To get the ball rolling, you write a letter of interest stating your desire to join their community. The candidacy process usually lasts 6 months to 2 years, though will end (and move on) when both parties see fit.
The second year is for generally reserved for education and working in the community. At the end of this phase, you are allowed to rejoin the lay community or proceed onto taking your vows. [11] X Research source Some congregations of sisters ask a Novice to choose a Saint’s name, upon taking your public vows, but not all. You may also keep your Baptismal name.
This is the point where you may have your hair cut. If you weren’t dedicated before, you sure are now! You’ll receive a black veil, a new name, and a full-length scapular once you’ve pledged your obedience and fidelity to the Lord.
There are a couple of exceptions to this rule. The Jesuits’ first vows are their final vows and the Sisters of Charity only ever taken ever-renewable vows. [12] X Research source
She must not be pregnant or nursing If she has a child, she must arrange other care for her dependent She must be of sound mind and body She must be free of debt and other obligation
You do not have to shave your head at this juncture. You will, however, be wearing white or white and black clothing. This stage normally takes a few weeks to a few months. The precepts (or Garudhammas) are the following:[13] X Research source She must not harm any human or non-human life She must not steal She must abstain from all sexual activity She must not tell lies or deceive She must not drink alcohol or otherwise ingest intoxicants She must only eat at the appropriate times She must not sing, dance, or wear cosmetics or perfume She must not indulge in sleep or spend her time in luxurious places
As of now, you are still technically a lay person. You are allowed to handle money and support yourself financially, though certain expenses will be shared with other women in the same position. Practice meditation. The “Brahma Viharas” of Loving Kindness (Metta), Joy of Appreciation (Mudita), Compassion (Karuna) & Equanimity (Upekkhā) are very important meditations to develop.
Now you must undertake the ten novice precepts, which includes not using money. You may also be prohibited from driving. You will also be given an elder member to become your personal teacher.
