If you can, try to get out of going to school functions. But don’t skip it if you are going to get in trouble.
Find solitary activities to do during lunch. For example, you can draw, read, or listen to music. If your school will allow it, go to the library or a teacher’s classroom where you can eat lunch alone. If your school has open lunch, you can go up town to restaurants and other places to eat lunch or you can go home if you live close to the school.
If your teacher makes you participate with others, do what you have to to do well in the class. Play basketball or volleyball on the team, but don’t go out of your way to talk to people. If your teacher will allow you to, sit on the bleachers or off to the side whenever you can.
If someone speaks directly to you, don’t be rude. Answer the question, but don’t follow up or ask the person a question in return.
Since you are a loner, you wouldn’t want to take drama or chorus classes. Independent vocal or instrumental music lessons such as piano are a better class to take.
Make sure not to make eye contact with people in areas where they might come and talk to you, like in the lunchroom or the classroom. To show respect, be sure to make eye contact with teachers and other authority figures.
Fold your arms loosely across your body and keep your head down. This will help people realize you don’t want to be bothered.
For example, you can wear headphones, read a book, look on your smartphone, or draw on a sketchpad.
If your teacher won’t allow you to work alone, do your part of the group work, but don’t talk to the other students unless you have to.
Listen in class, take notes, and study so you will make good grades. It doesn’t make a difference where you sit in class, just as long as you are paying attention.
Being a loner means you don’t really hang around with other students. It doesn’t mean you don’t participate in class.
For example, you may meet people at a music or computer class in the community. You may consider getting a tutor through the Boys and Girls Club or with a local college kid who can teach you a skill. Even if you prefer to be a loner, it’s healthy to connect with people sometimes, even if it’s only 1 or 2 other people who share similar interests as you or who you get along with. [7] X Expert Source Katie StyzekProfessional School Counselor Expert Interview. 26 March 2021.
Many communities have after school clubs you can get involved with. Doing things through a community organization allows you a chance to be a loner while still enjoying doing things.
You may also look for shy people or introverts in any clubs or organizations. These people may have similar interests as you.
